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Men Are Not Hunters

Love is meant to be simple, intentional and honourable. A man should not have to become a hunter chasing after a woman while enduring mind games, unnecessary tests or behaviour designed to make him prove that he is good enough. A healthy relationship begins when two people recognize each other’s worth and choose to build together.

Helping a woman know her worth does not require making a man suffer for access to her heart. A woman can have standards, boundaries and discernment without creating emotional competition. Likewise, a man can pursue a woman intentionally without being treated as though he must continually prove his value. The question is, are your standards protecting your dignity or creating unnecessary difficulty in love?

For Christian counselors, it is important to help both men and women understand that biblical relationships are built on honour, truth, mutual responsibility and Christlike love. “Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another.” — Romans 12:10. Counsel should not encourage manipulation, emotional punishment or gender-based power struggles, but should lead people toward healthy communication and godly understanding.

This applies wherever relationships are being formed: friendship, courtship, engagement and marriage. It becomes especially important when past disappointments, insecurity or cultural expectations have taught someone that love must be difficult before it can be considered valuable. Are you asking someone to pursue you because you genuinely desire a relationship, or because you need their pursuit to validate your worth?

Love becomes beautiful when both people can bring their dignity into the relationship without competing for power. A man does not lose his masculinity because he loves intentionally, and a woman does not lose her value because she communicates her interest honestly. In Christ, we can learn to love without manipulation, pursue without desperation, set boundaries without humiliation and honour one another without unnecessary games. Love should draw two whole people toward Christ, not force one person to prove their worth to the other.

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Apostle Prince Victor Matthew 

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